“Husband to be will go to wife’s family with lots of things, kolanut, sugar, drinks and box of cloth that is Nigerian attire for the bride as well as the bride price.
Groom will give this to the bride’s family and the bride’s family will accept it by giving the groom’s family a return proposal letter saying that they accept. That’s when the groom and bride can go ahead and have a church or registry marriage. Without the traditional marriage in Nigeria you can’t have have a church or registry marriage. The groom has to ask the bride’s parents and the bride’s parent’s have to accept before they can proceed to do anything.
That is our traditions.”